Finding Your People
Ever feel like finding a Godly community is harder than it needs to be? Like finding the perfect pair of jeans? Or deciding what you want to eat? 😂 Jokes aside it can be incredibly confusing being surrounded by a so many people whether at church, school or work but still feeling isolated.
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To be honest, we’ve been blessed with THE best people—but building this community didn’t just happen overnight or without effort & to be perfectly honest it cost us something, but that cost is may not be what you think…(see last bullet point) We wanted to take a few moments to share some of the ways we’ve been able to cultivate a group of friends who have literally:
Called us out when we’ve let idols creep into our lives
Given us a car when things were tough financially
Cried with us through the waiting for a baby and then cried tears of joy when the baby finally came
Been there for us when we needed to text someone in the middle of the night after a fight
Planned “family” trips together with us making doing life at the same life stage beyond amazing!
Finding your people can feel overwhelming, and if we’re being honest, sometimes we just wish the perfect, “made-for-me” community would fall into our laps. But that’s not how it usually happens. And, to be real, we probably wouldn’t value an amazing community if we didn’t have to put in some effort to build it. So, here are some tips for finding your people:
Pray for it: This might sound obvious, but our best friendships have come from answered prayers. True story: I (Chad) was at a really low point and praying for friends. The next day, at a gym in Hollywood (not exactly "Holywood"!), I saw a guy wearing a hat that said "redeemed." It felt like a sign. I gathered my courage, introduced myself, and five years later, he was one of my groomsmen!
Put yourself out there: Sitting back and waiting for people to come introduce themselves is a stressful waiting game that leads to anxiety and some bitter thoughts. You go make the first point of contact and ask questions about the person to get to know them and see if you have anything in common!
Get Out There: Meeting new people can be daunting, but finding an easy way to break the ice is a game changer. Engaging in a hobby or activity you love is a great way to connect with others who share similar interests.
Be Vulnerable: Seeds don’t grow on the surface—they thrive as they go deeper into the soil. Be willing to share where you are and what you’re going through. Vulnerability breeds connection, allowing others to meet you where you truly are.
Set Up Repeat Hangs: Consistency matters. We’re both involved in weekly and monthly meet-ups. We don’t make it every single time, but it helps us stay connected and prevents isolation from becoming the “norm” in our lives.
Be a Good Friend: To find a good friend, start by being one. Think about what you’d want in a friend, and be that for someone else! Whether it’s dropping off freshly made muffins to people you met at small group or organizing help for someone facing hardship, being a good friend is the best way to build your community.
closing thought. We honestly don’t know where we would be without our community…fun fact the only reason we have a newsletter is because a friend called us out of the blue and said “I was looking at everything yall do and why don’t you have a newsletter yet?!” that same spirit is why we sold our dream home and left what we knew for something greater… building your tribe will cost you something but what you get in return is infinitely better.
We have had so much family and community time lately! We have “Don Don” Tori’s mom and her Nany up visiting us along with Tori’s brother and his gf! Been great getting quality time with loved ones.
Thank you for being a member of the Sunday Send! We love you & remember… you are God’s masterpiece!
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